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To Feel is to Heal

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"Through helping others, I learned that I had always had compassion in me, although I hadn't know it and couldn't express it. I learned that if I could feel for others, I might also beging to feel compassion for myself. I was beginning to heal." - Yeonmi Park

I have just finished reading 'In Order to Live' by Yeonmi Park (Yes, I actually finished a book) and ๐Ÿฅน๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ฑwow what an emotional, inspiring, heart warming and breaking, compassionate story. There is so much that I want to say about her story, her book but it's not mine to tell (go read her book and experience it for yourself)...

What I do want to share is how this quote really resonated deeply about my own compassionate healing journey - learning how to teach myself compassion as like most immigrants I have found the lack of emotional support growing up or emotionally unavailable parents (not their fault - they were coping with the resources they had at the time), it left me with an emptiness, a highly active inner critic, unable to sit with, talks about or express my own emotions, unable to cope or manage with overwhelming feeling in difficult situations. I chose the importance of logic over feelings and still often feel overwhelmed with my emotions when it gets difficult so I try to control everything else but.

What is emotional intelligence? The ability to identify, assess, and manage oneโ€™s own emotions, the emotions of others, and those of groups (as described by Daniel Goleman).

It's a journey, which we all our going on at our own pace... Reiki was the beginning of mine - opening up a vulnerable safe space to sit with my emotions. When reading these words of Yeonmi Park - it reminded me of that time. How I kept chasing around trying to fix and solve everyone else problems, oblivious of (too busy to attend to) my own; burning out all the time. Those sessions opened up the biggest part of this journey - Self compassion. I used to shame my emotions, now I invite them in - like I would if my friend was feeling in their feels...

I feel a lot more now, both highs and low not as numb, unsure or unknowing of how I felt. I never used to cry but now I do... at songs, at puppies, at food when it sooo good (it gets emotional haha) but I now understand 'to feel is to heal'...

I invite you to try it :) promise it won't feel great at the time but you will thank yourself (eventually) ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ™

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